Natural Birth vs. Every other kind of birth!!!

12 Jul

Good lawd! My equilibrium is off kilter! My brain feels like mush! My limbs and joints feels like someone tied me to a tree and stretched me until I look like a limp spaghetti noodle! Does this sound familiar to some of you natural birth survivors? Hard to believe but I am not making this up.

With my first baby 10 years ago, I slept through 7 hours of induced labor then 10-13 minutes of blurry pushing. I don’t remember very much with that experience. With this one, my brain was not impaired by drugs…just pure, unadulterated pain.

My whole experience started with a slight headache and a bit of fatigue on Wednesday afternoon, May 8th. By 2:30 AM, I had been having some strong but very short contractions. Called my midwife at 4:30 when I suddenly started to bleed. She pissed me off and impressed me at her calmness. (Well to tell you the truth, I was calm too considering I was in labor.) She advised me to wait another hour and see if the contractions would get closer to one minute. An hour later, I breathlessly called her back and we planned a rendezvous at the center at 6:30.

The whole drive to the center my sisters kept singing some dumb song about pain. They kept singing louder and louder as my pain got more intense. Maybe it was their way of coping with their older sister going into labor…or they just wanted to irritate me to help take my mind off of the pain…it didn’t work.

Finally we arrive and the midwife is not there….hooo hooo, hee hee (Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth)…

Thank you Lord there was a midwife assistant sleeping in the center! Fast forward 30 minutes. I am being checked by the midwife. Lo and behold I am 8 centimeters dilated! Let’s get this show on the road….WAIT! I’m not ready for this pain!

I bypass laboring on the bed or walking the halls and is half carried half dragged into the birthing tub. I pant and pant thinking “Who cut off the oxygen in the room??” Finally, the pain subsides long enough for me to tell my sister to get my husband on Skype. Come hell or high water he was going to go through the pain with me as much as possible! But I was wrong! He was so excited, babbling some non-sense about breathing and pushing and STOP! I had to eventually tell them to mute him. That didn’t curb his enthusiasm. He proceeded to make calls to 姐姐(elder sister), 妈妈(mama) and the whole gang, smiling broadly as he describes what he is seeing.

I screamed and begged for drugs, but I had chosen a birthing center that didn’t carry any type of drugs…stupid me. I felt every internal organ move, displaced it seemed with all the pain, stretching and movement of the baby. I couldn’t imagine anything more painful or anyone else ever experiencing what I felt, but I’m sure millions of women had it worst than me. Twenty-two long minutes later, I felt and heard something pop out…it was just the head and shoulders. I was instructed to take a hold and pull my baby out…all of this in a squatting position. Thank God I spent 2 years in China perfecting my squatting over the squat toilets. Anyway, as soon as I pulled him out, I just felt this immense relief and heard my sisters and my husband, Jaison giving me encouragement and praises at a job well done (someone turned his sound back on)…I promptly passed out. My midwives were quick to bring me back. I was relieved to have delivered safely and felt tremendous guilt that I re-payed the midwife assistant through the whole labor by crushing her hands.

Connor Mingzhe Wang was born at 8:33 AM on May 9th, 2013, just in time for Mother’s Day. He weighed 6 lbs 13 Oz and was 18.5 inches long.

Little did I know, my ordeal was far from over. Such a tiny little thing but he caused me a  lot of damage. I needed repairing and it took almost an hour. My physical body was on the mend, but emotionally, I was reeling. I passed out another 3 times in the next 5 hours. I eventually had to literally crawl from the center to the car to be discharged. Had I passed out one more time, I would’ve been transported to the nearest hospital and I didn’t want that.

I made it back home safely with my baby. It has been an interesting road to recovery. I am now back in China with my husband and 2 children. Will I do the natural birth again?…I have another 2 years or so to think about it, but I’ll be sure to let you know. Meanwhile here are some pictures of my crazy ordeal and my little miracle.

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9 Responses to “Natural Birth vs. Every other kind of birth!!!”

  1. Jocelyn Eikenburg July 13, 2013 at 4:45 pm #

    Wow, that does sound rough! As someone who hasn’t had kids yet, I can only imagine what it must have been like. But I am glad you made it through and you and the baby are OK.

    • celestereille August 6, 2013 at 4:20 am #

      Thanks Jocelyn!!

    • celestereille October 18, 2013 at 7:08 am #

      You should try to try it at least once…even if you are not successful at completing it!! It’s really a mind thing. I didn’t think that while I was pushing though. I thought I would lose my mind!

  2. Denise Marquez August 6, 2013 at 4:19 am #

    Love love your joyous experience. I had 3 daughters born at home with a midwife in the 70’s. Everyone thought I was crazy! I definitely agree that the squat toilets helped you to get in shape! LOL

  3. aquariusamber August 6, 2013 at 1:13 pm #

    That’s screw the whole natural childbirth thing. If I ever get blessed with a baby I am on team drug me! drug me! drug me some more! I can’t even handle Aunt Flo!!!

  4. Turline J August 7, 2013 at 3:49 pm #

    Thanks for sharing! Oh what an experience, women power. Thank God.


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